Manipulation

I am sort of caught in a quandry. I want TCMT to get a clean bill of health just to assure myself of what is what as we move closer together (which seems to be what is happening), yet I don't believe in nagging, browbeating, or insisting to get this to happen. I mentioned it about a month ago, and he seemed (over)eager to address it if that's what I wanted -- and promptly has done very little. I've made my request, and I feel it's now up to him to live up to this expectation. He's not doing it as expeditiously as I'd like... so the question is how to handle it. Let him do things on his own time frame, so I can learn what that is? Ask him how I can be helpful in expediting matters? Refuse to get any closer to him (in fact, allow a barrier to rise) as a result of his inattention to this issue, which is indeed a priority with me?

It's possible he doesn't comprehend that this issue is a priority in my mind. At the same time, the sad truth of the matter is that he's going to be VERY busy in coming weeks (work, school, and coaching), and there just might not be a good opportunity to address this request in the reasonably immediate future. Perhaps if I express the internal need I feel for an answer to this question, and he lets me know his perceived time frame in taking care of it, as well as impediments (his financial situation is tenuous; while he's able to meet his needs, he is in progress of obtaining a green card and has retained an attorney to assist with the process, as well as a nice home, a pool, and graduate school; these tests are not necessarily inexpensive, as I know what his health insurance covers, having the same kind) we can establish a game plan to resolve it, together.

Work has resumed for the school year and is going swimmingly. In every other part of my life, I am feeling more at peace than I have in years. It's nice. It's really nice. I could get used to it.