Me in the Spotlight
I am sitting here in the mess of my office, thinking about the rotten shape of my home and how I believe that a disorganized environment is a signal of a disorganized mind. Maybe it's really a sign of a busy mind too overwhelmed with other obligations to spare time on the environment. My house is a disaster, yes, but I haven't felt like investing the required effort in maintaining its order... something I'm trying to rectify today, in between messing around online.
My office is a postitive disaster. A 10x10 room with four bookcases, a filing cabinet, a computer desk, and a single bed is overburdened beyond all that's realistic. Especially since my parents emptied the contents of my attic in here, and now boxes clutter up whatever space remained. Especially since the cats, uh, soiled the mattress on the aforementioned single bed (which isn't a huge crisis, as the mattress is worthless, and throwing it out is the only humane possiblity for it). I'd love to empty out the room, vacuum it, and restock it only with absolute essentials, but that solution strategy never contained a plan to deal with the nonessentials I can't somehow throw away and don't really want to store. Really, I should throw everything out and start over again; fortunately, that's what's happening with most of what I found in my attic, at least.
As I putter around, I can't seem to exorcise TCMT from my mind. We did detention together yesterday morning, and the chemistry between us (that much always flourished) was as palpable to me as ever. I know, I know, chemistry on its own doesn't make relationships, but a lack of chemistry certainly can restrain, pollute, or taint a relationship, as well. Chemistry does matter. But like I told P at lunch yesterday, sometimes I felt that TCMT and I were like a pair of parallel lines. We are similar, lying in the same plane, but not meeting. I liked him, but I never "got" him, not like I got the HL (and however disparate we were, I did get him), but with the HL, there was a different issue. He and I were overlapping circles, and where we overlapped, everything was GREAT, but the un-overlapped parts were much bigger than the overlapping ones. It weakened the structure. There wasn't enough there, even with the good parts being so good.
I don't know. I asked her if she thought the fault is mine, that my own psychological unpreparedness might stymie our potential, and she said something to the effect of, "Everyone will drive you crazy, but with some people it's worth it." Well, my question remains; was it not worth it with TCMT because I myself didn't want to deal, or because he himself wasn't worth it? Or are they two halves of the same issue?
Anyway, my plan of keeping a low profile is working out just as I mean it to, and until I achieve clarity of purpose, I shall rely on my plan. When in doubt of what to do, do nothing; I can always act later. Anyway, my need to continue learning about myself as a single and autonomous woman remains, and I guess that if I reawaken a rapport with TCMT, I could be jeopardizing it... but perhaps walking that path has been a quicker walk than I anticipated. Perhaps I've found a clarity about TCMT and wanting to experience some of life with him, having had a month to think about it.
The year I took off from teaching was the single most valuable year of my life in preparing me to reenter the classroom having reflected, considered, weighed pros and cons... and when I did reenter the classroom, I was a much better teacher than I had been. Now this has been a month off relationships, not a year, but I'm older and hopefully wiser, and I'm willing to consider my options.
But... maybe not to act on my considerations. Not yet.
My office is a postitive disaster. A 10x10 room with four bookcases, a filing cabinet, a computer desk, and a single bed is overburdened beyond all that's realistic. Especially since my parents emptied the contents of my attic in here, and now boxes clutter up whatever space remained. Especially since the cats, uh, soiled the mattress on the aforementioned single bed (which isn't a huge crisis, as the mattress is worthless, and throwing it out is the only humane possiblity for it). I'd love to empty out the room, vacuum it, and restock it only with absolute essentials, but that solution strategy never contained a plan to deal with the nonessentials I can't somehow throw away and don't really want to store. Really, I should throw everything out and start over again; fortunately, that's what's happening with most of what I found in my attic, at least.
As I putter around, I can't seem to exorcise TCMT from my mind. We did detention together yesterday morning, and the chemistry between us (that much always flourished) was as palpable to me as ever. I know, I know, chemistry on its own doesn't make relationships, but a lack of chemistry certainly can restrain, pollute, or taint a relationship, as well. Chemistry does matter. But like I told P at lunch yesterday, sometimes I felt that TCMT and I were like a pair of parallel lines. We are similar, lying in the same plane, but not meeting. I liked him, but I never "got" him, not like I got the HL (and however disparate we were, I did get him), but with the HL, there was a different issue. He and I were overlapping circles, and where we overlapped, everything was GREAT, but the un-overlapped parts were much bigger than the overlapping ones. It weakened the structure. There wasn't enough there, even with the good parts being so good.
I don't know. I asked her if she thought the fault is mine, that my own psychological unpreparedness might stymie our potential, and she said something to the effect of, "Everyone will drive you crazy, but with some people it's worth it." Well, my question remains; was it not worth it with TCMT because I myself didn't want to deal, or because he himself wasn't worth it? Or are they two halves of the same issue?
Anyway, my plan of keeping a low profile is working out just as I mean it to, and until I achieve clarity of purpose, I shall rely on my plan. When in doubt of what to do, do nothing; I can always act later. Anyway, my need to continue learning about myself as a single and autonomous woman remains, and I guess that if I reawaken a rapport with TCMT, I could be jeopardizing it... but perhaps walking that path has been a quicker walk than I anticipated. Perhaps I've found a clarity about TCMT and wanting to experience some of life with him, having had a month to think about it.
The year I took off from teaching was the single most valuable year of my life in preparing me to reenter the classroom having reflected, considered, weighed pros and cons... and when I did reenter the classroom, I was a much better teacher than I had been. Now this has been a month off relationships, not a year, but I'm older and hopefully wiser, and I'm willing to consider my options.
But... maybe not to act on my considerations. Not yet.